Some of the most simple lessons in life are often the easiest to forget. This is my story of growing my own business and learning to just breathe.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve wanted to work for myself. Growing up, my dad owned his own business, and although I knew that he worked incredibly hard, I loved the fact that he was able to often come home for lunch or take time off without having to ask.
Back when I worked in the corporate world, as a fashion designer, I felt like a caged animal. This is how I knew that there was something more for me out there in the world, yet I had no idea what.
Fast forward to today, and here I am typing this from 35,000 feet in the air, as I fly home from a magical week in Baltimore for Expo East. I now own my own business, and when I really take a step back and think about it, I realize that my biggest dream already came true. This is what I wanted the most.
I’m someone who LOVES to check things off of my to-do lists. I create vision boards every year, and break my long-term goals down into 30-day goals, which I often check in on. I’m highly self-motivated and am not someone that you have to push to get my work done. Growing a business isn’t easy, but I’ve always been willing to put in the work to get to where I want to be.
This all probably sounds great to most, until you realize the other side of it.
When I was in corporate, I worked 60+ hours a week, often 6 days a week. I’m someone who could easily work all. the. time. I absolute love what I do now, and that’s made it challenging to shut down my work and live my actual life at times. It’s me, myself and I, writing these blog posts, sharing on my social media, and answering hundreds of emails and messages every week.
Because of my deep desire to help others, it’s easy for me to give and give, until my tank is completely empty. I did this until I realized that I can’t help others if I’m not helping myself first. The same goes for you.
While I was at Expo East, I had the honor of meeting my new friend Beth, from Tasty Yummies. I felt an instant connection to her, a connection that I don’t often feel when it comes to meeting people the very first time. This is how I knew that Beth is REAL, and real is all that I crave in my life. Beth is the one that inspired this entire blog post, as I pour my heart out to you today.
Here’s a picture of me and Beth at Expo East last week:
Last Wednesday while in Baltimore, we attended an influencer summit, and a talk given by Beth hit me HARD. She talked about not being a slave to your brand – and really, not being a slave to your life.
I found myself saying “YESSSS” throughout her entire talk, as I resonated so much with her story.
Often throughout my journey of working for myself, I’ve realized that feeling the need to keep up with everything and everyone had only made me miserable.
I remember at one point my husband asked me if I was having any fun in my work. Those words pierced through me, as I realized for the first time that I wasn’t actually having any fun at all. I was doing a million things, but not really feeling like I was getting anywhere, which only felt like I needed to do a million more things. My breathing was shallow and I was literally racing through life. It’s like running on a treadmill – I was going fast but literally going nowhere.
I was rushing through one experience, only to be late to the next.
I’m guessing that many of you know exactly what I’m talking about. It doesn’t take owning your own business to feel this way.
During Beth’s talk, the first words that appeared on the screen were “Just Breathe” and while she talked about the fact that no one is going to die if you slow down and step away from your business, I said “AMEN.”
Whenever I feel like I’m rushing through life, just trying to keep up, I take a step back and remind myself of WHY I started my own business. WHY is it that I do what I do?
Asking myself this question instantly puts me back in the present moment.
The truth is, I started my entire business to help others. I suffered for years with my health, and it’s my greatest goal to show you that you don’t have to do the same – that there can be another way. This is the WHY behind all of the work that I do.
I didn’t start my own business just to feel like I could never keep up, that’s FOR SURE.
Now, I simply live my life by doing what feels GOOD and what feels RIGHT. I’ve learned to slow down, and JUST BREATHE. It’s the best decision that I’ve ever made, and I accomplish so much more when I live by this.
Take a few slow, deep breaths, and realize that you can do the same in any area of your life.
JUST BREATHE. It’s going to be okay.